Review: I See you Egun

Written by Brittany Tanner | Illustrated by Keisha Miller-Mann | In partnership with BE-IMAGINATIVE

I See You Egun is a gentle and powerful invitation into the world of ancestral remembrance and healing, written with deep care by Brittany Tanner and brought to life through the powerful illustrations of Keisha Miller-Mann, Brittany’s aunt. This book was created in partnership with BE-IMAGINATIVE. This book is a healing balm for the heart and a sacred offering for children and families navigating the often unspoken journey of grief.

This book teaches us about the sacredness of losing someone we love. I See You Egun fills that gap with tenderness and grace. It opens a doorway for children to explore what it means to stay connected to those who have passed, to remember, to feel, and to heal.

This book is emotionally resonant, it is both visually and physically soothing. The illustrations are hypnotic, rich with color, memory, and spirit. Holding this book feels like holding something sacred. Its soft texture, the weight of its presence, and the care in every detail offers a comforting experience that our children and inner children deeply deserve. It affirms that their grief is valid, their emotions are powerful, and their stories are worth honoring in beauty.

What makes this offering even more profound is the story behind its creation. Brittany Tanner wrote this book in the midst of a potent and tender chapter in her life, the transition of her beloved brother and the birth of her son. It was a time full of sorrow and sacred transformation, a season of bathing in both loss and new life. This book is not only a reflection of that time, it is a result of it. A work that, in its making, recreated the author herself.

I See You Egun is a book and it is also a ritual, a mirror, a remembering. It invites us all to pause, honor our lineage, and feel held in the arms of those who came before us while paving the way for those who come after. It belongs in every home that values healing, every library that holds space for truth, and every child’s hands who needs to know they are not alone.

The Power of Tears: Embracing the Healing Force of Crying

We live in society that too often celebrates stoicism and resilience, while crying is often sometimes seen as a sign of weakness. But check this out, tears are one of the most powerful and natural expressions of our human experience. They are a testament to our capacity to feel deeply and to heal profoundly.

Crying can be an emotional release, a way for our bodies to process and let go of intense feelings. Whether it's the overwhelming joy of a momentous occasion or the deep sorrow of a significant loss, tears allow us to honor our emotions fully. They are a language of the soul, communicating what words often cannot.

Tears are also a healing balm. Scientifically, they are known to release stress hormones and toxins from the body, acting as a natural way to detoxify our systems. When we cry, we often feel a sense of relief and clarity afterward, as if the weight of our emotions has been lifted. This cathartic experience can pave the way for emotional recovery and mental well-being.

Moreover, crying connects us to others. It is a universal human experience that transcends cultural and linguistic barriers. When we see someone cry, we instinctively empathize with them, understanding that they are experiencing something profound. This shared vulnerability fosters deeper connections and can strengthen our relationships, reminding us of our shared humanity.

In our collective journey through life, we all encounter moments of intense emotion that bring us to tears. Embracing these moments rather than suppressing them allows us to experience the full spectrum of our emotions and to find healing in our tears. It is through this process that we can transform our pain into purpose, much like the way Lauren Adams does in her music.

As we navigate the ups and downs of life, let us remember that tears are not a sign of weakness but of strength. They are a powerful reminder of our capacity to feel, to heal, and to connect with one another on the deepest levels. So the next time you feel the urge to cry, honor it. Let your tears flow, and embrace the healing power they bring.

GOOD GRIEF by SōLauren: Out Now

Cancer season has me deep up in my feelings, and I have to share how profoundly I've been moved by the new album "Good Grief" by SōLauren. Witnessing Lauren face grief head-on, and transforming it into something phenomenal, has been a blessing. As a member of our collective, her journey from pain to purpose inspires us all.

SōLauren music powerfully uplifts and challenges the industry, echoing Nina Simone’s words, "It's an artist's duty to reflect the times." She doesn't create art for art’s sake; she uses it as a tool for social change, to uplift our communities, our lives, our people, and our world. Art can drive social change. It’s the art that moves us to action, the albums that call us out, inspiring us to stand in our purpose, in what the Most High has called us to do.

Lauren Adams, SōLauren, has an unbreakable bond with the Most High, her transitioned loved ones, and with us in our collective. In the documentary "When the Waters Get Deep," she said, "Do it now and do it in their name." She lives by these words, honoring her loved ones and dedicating this album to those on the other side who want to see us heal, live, and even thrive.

We celebrate SōLauren, we celebrate this album, and we are forever thankful for its release. The world needs this music now. It’s a call to action, a beacon of hope, and a reminder of the power of the arts.

Purchase GOOD GRIEF now and let it move you as it has moved us.

GOOD GRIEF by SōLauren Credits:

Released June 28, 2024

1. Good Grief ft. The Ry, Jillian Adams, & $hady – produced by Andrew Bearford

2. GiGi’s Wisdom (Process It) – produced by SōLauren

3. Find Your Way – produced by SōLauren & Wilke$

4. GiGi’s Wisdom (Unpack It) – produced by SōLauren & Wilke$

5. It’s Alright ft. The Ry – produced by SōLauren & Wilke$

6. GiGi’s Wisdom (Feel It) – produced by SōLauren & Wilke$

7. I Feel It – produced by SōLauren, Enon Jacobs, & Wilke$

8. Ori Ara - DJ Wilke$ MIX (Nourish It) ft. Mani Draper – produced by Kevin Allen, Mani Draper, & Wilke$

9. GiGi’s Wisdom (Share It) – produced by SōLauren & Wilke$

10. September (Remember It) – produced by SōLauren, Mani Draper, & Wilke$

11. GiGi’s Joy (Selahbrate It) – produced by SōLauren & Wilke$

12. Happy Birthday GiGi ft. Jaylen, Bryce, & Ryann Adams – produced by SōLauren & Wilke$

13. My Favorite Dreams (Connect It) – produced/engineered by SōLauren, Jarin “OG Jarin” Tindall & Deshawn Guillox

Executive Produced by SōLauren & BE-IMAGINATIVE

• Additional production & engineering on "Good Grief" by Wilke$

• Additional vocals on "Good Grief" by Jarin “OG Jarin” Tindall

• Additional engineering on "Find Your Way" by Zuko Ali

• Additional vocals on "Happy Birthday GiGi" by Jaylen Adams, Bryce Adams, & Ryann Adams

• Lyrics & arrangement of "September (Remember It)" inspired by Earth, Wind & Fire

• Lyrics & arrangement of "My Favorite Dreams" inspired by Rogers & Hammerstein

Recorded at:

• The Reef Studios

• Studio X Recording (510)

• At Home

Front & Back Cover Art: Ayo Cover Art Photos: Zhané of Vibrance BW

All songs written/arranged/produced by SōLauren unless otherwise mentioned.

Understanding the Stages of Grief

Grief is a universal experience, yet it's one of the most challenging journeys we'll ever undertake. Losing a loved one is like being thrown into a stormy sea, where waves of emotions crash over us, threatening to pull us under. But amidst the chaos, there is a roadmap—a guide to help us navigate the turbulent waters. Understanding the stages of grief can provide us with a sense of direction, offering comfort and insight as we make our way through the storm.

1. Denial: The Initial Shock

When we first receive news of a loss, we commonly feel disbelief. Denial acts as a protective barrier, shielding us from the full weight of reality. We may find ourselves numb, unable to fully comprehend what has happened. It's a coping mechanism—a temporary reprieve that allows us time to process the enormity of our loss.

2. Anger: The Fire Within

As the shock wears off, anger often takes its place. We may feel rage at the unfairness of the situation, directing our fury at ourselves, the world, others, and sometimes even at the one we've lost. Anger is a natural response to the pain we're experiencing—it's our heart's way of expressing the depth of our sorrow.

3. Bargaining: The Desperate Plea

In our darkest moments, we may bargain with a higher power, desperately seeking to undo what cannot be undone. We replay scenarios in our minds, imagining different outcomes, hoping against hope that somehow, things could be different. Bargaining is a futile attempt to regain control in a situation where control has been taken from us.

4. Depression: The Heavy Cloud

We often descend into a deep sadness—a bottomless pit of despair when bargaining fails. Depression is more than just feeling sad; it's a profound emptiness that permeates every aspect of our being. We may lose interest in things we once enjoyed, withdrawing from the world as we struggle to accept our loss.

5. Acceptance: Finding Peace

Slowly, as we journey through the stages of grief, acceptance begins to take root. It's not a sudden realization but a gradual understanding that this is our new reality. Acceptance doesn't mean we forget or stop missing our loved ones; rather, it's about making peace with what has happened and finding a way to move forward.

The stages of grief are not a linear progression—they're more like a tangled web, with emotions ebbing and flowing unpredictably. Each person's journey through grief is unique and shaped by their experiences and circumstances. But by understanding the stages of grief, we can gain insight into our emotions and find solace in knowing we're not alone. As we navigate the storm of grief, may we find comfort in the love and support of those around us, and may we emerge stronger, wiser, and more resilient than before.

Embracing Motherhood: Empowering Narratives of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion this Mother's Day

During this Mother’s Day season, I find myself in a delicate dance between caring for my precious newborn daughter, guiding my energetic 9-year-old son, and cherishing the memories of my angel twin babies through the endeavors of BE-IMAGINATIVE. My work with BE-IMAGINATIVE stems directly from motherhood. As we hold space for grief, we also continue our mission to honor the lives and legacies of our loved ones and the precious lives of our new children. Now, reentering the realm of leadership following a short maternity leave, I embrace this profound journey with gratitude, vision, and determination.

BE-IMAGINATIVE, established in collaboration with SOL Development, is an Emmy Award-winning organization committed to nurturing communities in grief through the power of imaginative storytelling. We are artists, healers, and community leaders practicing various art forms, including music, film, painting, and more, to curate and document our sanctuaries for healing. We capture our transformative journeys, weaving narratives of empowerment to resonate globally. At our core lies a belief in the profound understanding that true healing is realized by embracing life's interconnectedness and fullness.

Transitioning back to work post-baby is a profound yet challenging journey, especially for parents and caregivers navigating workplace dynamics that often overlook the needs of their children. In Western society, children are too often seen merely as interruptions, failing to recognize their inherent power and brilliance. This perception has led to missed opportunities for me and our organization, as accommodations for children are often limited or nonexistent.

Photo courtesy of Smeeta Mahanti

Photo courtesy of Pinterest, by Dustin Young

I think of the powerful leaders who, in striving to create a better world for others, must leave their own children to navigate life independently. The sacrifices made are too large and the risk too great, often compromising what should be non-negotiable priorities. My son's heartfelt comment, expressing his longing to spend more time with me, highlights the impact of demanding work schedules on family life. While disheartening, it emphasizes the urgent need to prioritize our children's well-being alongside our professional commitments.

I mean, indigenous cultures worldwide have always embraced a holistic approach to childcare, where children are often carried on their caregivers' backs as they engage in work and daily activities. This traditional practice beautifully embodies the interconnectedness of family life and work, recognizing the importance of nurturing and including children in daily responsibilities. It stands in strong contrast to the Western perception of children as disruptions in professional settings. We can always lean into indigenous wisdom because it offers valuable insights into cultivating supportive environments that honor both work commitments and family life.

Photo courtesy of Pinterest, by Dustin Young

Within our organization, BE-IMAGINATIVE, we refuse to compartmentalize ourselves, to shrink our roles as parents to fit into societal norms of leaving our children behind so that we can serve others. We advocate for spaces that honor the fullness of the human experience.

So when BE-IMAGINATIVE was offered to become a Pinterest Impact Partner and participate in Pinterest Impact Lab, a capacity-strengthening program for emerging stage organizations in partnership with Raise for Good, I recognized the significance of fully committing to this partnership. The Pinterest Impact Lab experience ended with an in-person gathering called “Community Coaching Day,” facilitating networking and collaboration among leaders, funders, and community members. I was excited to participate. However, I hesitated as a new mother preparing to return to work. With limited breast milk and my baby girl yet to experience time away from me, I refused even to imagine leaving her. On that particular day, I was ready to stay home, prioritizing my role as a mother. 

Photo courtesy of Smeeta Mahanti

“...we refuse to compartmentalize ourselves, to shrink our roles as parents to fit into societal norms of leaving our children behind...”

— Ayesha Walker

I seriously considered not attending, especially because it meant parting with my new baby. However, with unwavering support from my family and close friends, I felt empowered to go. After advocating for baby and me, the teams at Pinterest and Raise for Good went above and beyond, ensuring accommodations for my baby, me, and even my best friend — a fellow mother — who joined to assist with childcare during the Community Coaching Day. They created nurturing spaces for nursing, prioritized my comfort, and extended heartfelt hospitality. The overwhelming warmth and encouragement from attendees, applauding my decision to have my baby with me, filled me with so much gratitude. One woman even called me a badass mom for bringing my baby alongside me.

Photo courtesy of Michael Fu

On this Mother’s Day, I choose to amplify a crucial truth: Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion are far more than fancy words used to fulfill corporate quotas. They represent a profound opportunity for embracing the richness of the human journey and dismantling systemic barriers that marginalize individuals. This imperative extends far beyond the realm of parents and caregivers reentering the workforce. We must urge businesses to adopt inclusive practices that celebrate diverse identities from the outset and integrate them consistently.

Honoring Our Ancestors: Embracing Synchronicities and Listening to Whispers

Honoring our ancestors is a timeless practice, rich with meaning and connection. It transcends mere remembrance, delving into the realms of synchronicity and the subtle whispers that guide our lives. This journey of connection offers profound insights and a deeper understanding of our place within the tapestry of life.

The Call of Synchronicity

Synchronicities are those seemingly coincidental moments when everything aligns perfectly, often interpreted as messages from the universe or our ancestors. These experiences can serve as powerful reminders of the unseen bonds linking us to the past.

Consider the scenario of finding an old family photo, which sparks a series of events leading to the discovery of a cherished heirloom. Such moments can feel like our ancestors are reaching out, guiding us towards greater awareness and understanding. Recognizing and embracing these synchronicities helps us honor our ancestors by acknowledging their ongoing influence in our lives.

Listening to the Whispers

The whispers of our ancestors come in quiet, unexpected moments—through dreams, nature, or sudden insights. Learning to listen to these whispers is an act of respect and connection, allowing us to tap into the wisdom of those who came before us.

For example, someone might dream of a grandparent offering advice, only to find that this guidance is exactly what is needed in a current life situation. Creating space for these subtle messages, whether through meditation, journaling, or quiet reflection, opens us to the rich legacy of our ancestors’ experiences and insights.

The Rituals of Remembrance

Incorporating rituals into our daily lives is a meaningful way to honor our ancestors. These rituals can be simple yet profound acts of remembrance and gratitude.

Lighting a candle for a departed loved one, cooking a traditional family recipe, or visiting a significant place can serve as powerful connectors to our heritage. Each act of remembrance not only honors our ancestors but also strengthens our own sense of identity and continuity. These practices remind us that we are part of a larger story, carrying forward the legacy of those who preceded us.

Embracing the Journey

Honoring our ancestors is a journey of discovery, connection, and profound respect. It’s about recognizing the synchronicities that guide us and listening to the whispers that carry the wisdom of ages. This journey helps us understand that we are never truly alone; we are surrounded by the love and guidance of those who came before us.

By integrating these practices into our lives, we find a deeper sense of belonging and purpose. We learn to see the world through the eyes of our ancestors, hear their stories in the wind, and feel their presence in moments of stillness. Honoring them enriches our present and guides our future, forging a path of strength and wisdom.

Let us embrace this path together, recognizing the synchronicities and whispers, and honoring the ancestors who light our way. In doing so, we weave a rich tapestry that connects our past, enriches our present, and shapes our future.